The ‘revolving door’ was how we described it in the homelessness sector in my social care days. It referred to the problem of having helped people off the streets, found them a hostel place, linked them to drugs and alcohol support and any number of other services, only to find a number of people would be back on the streets – even after weeks or months of intensive support.
Frustrating – yes. But why does it happen?
In one word, FEAR, but it’s also tied up with other emotions such as lack of trust in oneself and others, lack of belief that things can be different, fear of responsibility and what that entails … so being with others in a similar place of not having to face up to those fears and doubts is a mighty pull against having to make permanent change. So the work would begin all over again … and the process repeated – it’s the revolving door.
Are you any different in your business?
Think about it … do the same problems occur time and time again? Are you on the constant search for clients? Does your business suffer from feast and famine? Do you get stuck not sure what to do next? Business problems arise similar to the revolving door – when you think you’ve moved on, more often than not you’re just repeating the same behaviour albeit in another scenario, but all with have the same outcome, which is back where you started from.
It works in a similar way to the heating thermostat in your house. If you set the thermostat for ninety degrees, it doesn’t matter what you do … whether you open a window or door … your thermostat will adjust to ensure your heating remains at ninety degrees. People are the same. It doesn’t matter however hard you work, however much money you earn, or however you try to make change happen, you will naturally adjust back to whatever your blueprint is set for. Make sense?
Here’s the good news … it IS possible to change your blueprint to a more supportive and successful one … once you know how.
Preparing yourself for massive change:
- Do your really want to change? Making change means you have to be uncomfortable before you realise the benefits of the change. You have to want it.
- Understand there’s a process. It takes a minimum of twenty-one days to learn and instil a new behaviour. Part of this process is in replacing those non-supportive behaviours with supportive ones.
- Being open to learning new ways of doing and being and living your authentic life rather than the one that’s kept you in your comfort zone. . It is said that your income or lack of it is a direct reflection of your comfort zone.
Preparing for change opens your mind towards accepting that change is necessary and that you will start to find answers to your current situation or problem … and finally stop that revolving door. Otherwise, will your 2014 be any different to any other year?