Finding Fulfilment In Life!
Are you striving for fulfilment in your life? Whether you’re building your own business with the intention of doing something you love, or you’re simply trying to find a missing ingredient to make you happier, then you need to take a closer look at what it is your doing and feeling.
It’s easy to get out of tune with our true selves in our ever hectic lives and although many of us think we’re open to change, when it happens we tend to run away from it. I recently talked about curiosity as being a secret to success and it’s interesting that this is linked to the personality trait of openness. And being open is the most consistent predictor of our creativity or our ability to embrace new ideas and our professional success.
Curiosity however, is more about keeping an open mind. Curious people are life’s seekers. They crave adventure, look for challenges and want to have new experiences. They want to be stretched and embrace the feelings and emotions their curiosity has aroused. They might seek out new relationships, learn new skills or push themselves in their work.
But what can happen is that while it’s great to always be seeking new things and having exciting adventures, we forget to look for the curious in what we already have. For instance; if you’ve been married to the same person for 10 or even 20 years, then in many cases much of what happens in daily life is taken for granted. Similarly if we’re stuck in a job we hate, we’re bored with life or our relationship has strayed off course then we question our level of fulfilment.
In turn, this causes restlessness and it’s easy to lose sight of what sustains us and where the true meaning of our lives comes from. So to become fulfilled we need to look for the unfamiliar in the familiar.
Start by looking for small moments during the day when you can explore and become curious about something. It might be something as simple as picking up on a passing comment that someone says to you and deciding to ask for more information leading to a conversation. Or try doing your job in a different way to how you usually do it so you break the routine. Or change your work schedule so you have a whole new routine. Try walking to work and taking notice of the things that happen around you en-route. Or try to find three or four different ways to reach your work destination as a personal challenge.
If it’s your personal relationship that you want to gain more fulfilment in then start to add zest to it by arranging to meet your partner in a completely new environment as if it’s a first date all over again. Drop hints about things you want to do and invent a game of Cluedo as to where your next weekend away is going to be – then arrange something unusual. Take it in turns to do something you’ve always wanted to do and surprise your partner as much as possible. A great game is to have a weekly theme that you both have to do something different that week to enhance the relationship. It might be as simple as a pink evening where you have pink champagne and lobster for dinner with pink candles and serviettes. A pink bubble bath afterwards won’t go amiss either!
Fulfilment isn’t about searching outside of you it’s about finding what’s already inside of you and allowing that to come out.
Article by: Wendy Howard, Spirit of Venus, www.spiritofvenus.co.uk & www.grow-training.com