As a transformational change master current times are extremely exciting. Right now our world is undergoing tremendous transformational times. And it’s a time for all of us to recognize that there are two types of human beings on the planet.

Firstly, there are those people who live around and are centered around the cultural consciousness that they are strictly ego, physical bodies trying to manage survival, very fear-based, very anxious, very struggling with “me against you.”

In doing so, they’re struggling with life, struggling with one another, struggling with the government, struggling with their families, struggling with their bodies, struggling with their depression. Everything is an endless struggle.

And then there are the other type of people out there who are really enjoying life; living in their hearts; with an incredible appreciation of the planet; of their life experience, their creations, of connecting with human beings in a profound and meaningful way. It’s like living in whole, different world paradigm.

There has never been a time so strong as now to realize that how we travel through life is our choice. On the one hand is the trip to hell and the other is a glorious, first class, phenomenal journey.
And it’s really about you being able to understand that there are these two different frequencies. One goes with the flow, and one goes against the flow.

When you go with the flow you are connected to a higher vibrational energy and life becomes blissful. That’s not to say things don’t happen that don’t throw you out or cause you pain – or that wouldn’t be living. But what happens is that you have a greater acceptance of self, others and the world. You are able to take things in your stride in the comfort of being at one with oneself.

When you go against the flow you believe that everything is dangerous or out to take from you. This causes pain and you become defensive or want to hide and retreat. Life is based around fear and disconnection. Your energy is a lower vibrational energy and deflects the good.
When you make a conscious decision to choose your life experience your life will immediately change because your energy vibrations changes.

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It’s interesting when we bring up the subject of wealth that it means different things to different people. We’re often so focussed on the monetary aspect (and yes, that is part of it) that we tend to overlook the other aspects of wealth. The truth is that financial wealth will not bring you the happiness and inner peace you crave unless you nourish and grow all the other aspects of your wealth too.

Let’s look at the different aspects of wealth and how we can nourish and grow these areas to become wealthier.

1. Financial wealth – People who feel happier about financial wealth are those who are in control of their finances and actively manage their money. They don’t necessarily all have to have huge amounts but they realise that money is simply an exchange mechanism for something of value. That’s all it is. And value is set by how much you want what is being offered. People who manage their money well may decide to build empires and have millions (or billions) in the bank. Others may decide to live within their means for the pay they receive from their job. Either way, the key to financial wealth is to firstly learn to manage what you have. You can then educate yourself in anything you need to know about investing later.

2. Educational wealth – Investing in your knowledge and learning new skills. Sometimes this can be is seen as an expense but really it should be viewed as an investment – in YOU. And gaining educational wealth doesn’t have to cost money. It can include having an awareness of what’s around you and the people you share your life with. Having an awareness of what’s around you and the people around you. It can include mentoring and being mentored in your current job or for a hobby you wish to learn. Or it can simply be visiting local parks, museums, art galleries, or observing local buildings.

3. Physical wealth – No, I’m not talking Arnold Schwarzenegger although I’m sure his physical wealth was a priority. However, physical wealth relates to the health aspect of caring for your body and making sure you treat yourself well. Take time out to exercise and become fitter. Go for a walk daily, join a gym, cycle to work. Take care of your appearance and how you look with your hair, clothing and weight management. Eat healthily and cut down alcohol or caffeine that might be affecting your over all health. Making a few small changes will result in great results.

4. Emotional wealth- Being aware of our feelings and our own emotional make-up. Tuning into how we feel at any particular moment. Listening to our inner emotions and how we can recognise the different emotions we go through depending on the situation we’re faced with. A lot of time we are in a state of fear or anxiety or unpleasantness and becoming aware of this and then recognising that in this moment we can take control of our emotions. Being in the ‘now’ is a great comforter and once you get used to checking into the ‘now’ it all becomes a lot easier.

5. Mental wealth – How do you stimulate your mind? How much do you know about your own psychology and perhaps the psychology of others? Feeling stressed can be due to overload, feeling it’s out of our control, avoiding taking control, putting something off, aswell as being bored and not having enough stimulation. Our mental wealth can be improved by self-understanding and doing what we’re naturally good at rather than fighting against what we know isn’t right for us.

6. Social wealth – Do you spend time with friends and family? Do you take time off to socialise and meet new people? Social wealth is about relationships and harmony with others who you love, care about and trust. Spending time with people who’s company you enjoy. It might also be in the daily conversations you have with people around you when you’re at the local supermarket check out or petrol station. Or it might be the brief chat you have with colleagues or with the fellow dog walker whilst walking your dog. It might simply be having someone around you for company. Social wealth is extremely important in our often busy and increasingly virtual world.

7. Spiritual wealth – This is about looking at things like harmony, between you and the world and maybe some higher place. Spiritual wealth is not necessarily about religion although for many that might be the case. It is entirely your choice how you interpret spiritual wealth but when you do it’s an inner knowing that all is okay with you and the world. You will feel at peace with yourself and others.

And if you have an abundance of all these elements you will have achieved the most amazing wealth. So start to look at the different aspects of your wealth and where you can make adjustments to align yourself for a wealthier you.

Article by: Wendy Howard, www.spiritofvenus.co.uk

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Now, there is a little exercise that we find really useful, and that is if you were to write an eulogy. Let’s begin by imagining it was your funeral and you had to write a eulogy that somebody would read at your funeral today, what would it be like? Write this down.

And then take yourself forward 20 years, imagine yourself in 20 years’ time, and that’s when you died, what would the eulogy be like then? Write this down.

And what this exercise does is it gives you the opportunity to create some stuff within the 20-year period that you could really get excited about. And it really opens up your thoughts and gets you to look at where you are now and what you’ve achieved so far.

And I know that when I’m at the end of my life I want to be able to tell a story. What happened during my life. What changes took place. What I did with my life. Who I met along the way. And the great experiences I had.

And I don’t know if you’ve ever watched ‘Only Fools & Horses’ but Grandad was a great inspirational story teller about his time in the war. And a large part of the series focussed on his stories which of course were often elaborated in great detail depending on the occasion. Non-the-less, they were so entertaining and brought his character to life in a way that no-one else ever could.

And doing this exercise also gives you a choice. Do I make something of my life or don’t I? And so, setting some goals in life is important. And once you set goals, you do start to feel more in control, you start to feel as though you are taking charge of your life, and that your life will change. And this in turn will shift your motivation, and it will make you happy because you’ve got a purpose.

So start writing that eulogy today …

Article by: Wendy Howard, www.spiritofvenus.co.uk

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Where’s your passion and motivation? What is it that floats your boat? We’re so engrossed in the struggle that we lose sight of the things that things that actually fire us up. Here’s a lovely little exercise to reignite your passion.

Think back throughout the last 5 years, then 10 years, then 20 years, what are the things which have really excited you? What things have made you feel passionate?

And, then bring those images in your mind back into your life again. It may be an experience going to a live music concert or to see your child’s play. It may be when you played football or tennis with great people around you. It may be back at school or college when you had fun with the crowd you used to hang out with. It doesn’t matter what those experiences are as they are unique to you.

Think back to when was the last time you did those things? How much did you enjoy doing these things? If you’ve rather lost touch with that, go and find a way to do similar things again because If it really excited you before, there’s a fair chance it’ll excite you again.

And a wonderful story I heard which sums up the power of this simple exercise is about a lady who was feeling very depressed with her life, as if nothing was worth living for. When she was asked how long she’d felt like that, she said “since my husband died”. And that had been a number of years. So the next question was “and what did you do when your husband was alive that made you so happy?” She said, “I used to do lots of things such as water-colour painting, gardening, visiting art galleries and having friends around for dinner”. And the next question was “why can’t you do some of those things now?” and she answered, “well, I suppose I could really.” And that’s precisely what she did. She started to invite friends round for dinner and began to go out to art galleries and places of interest. She re-started water-colour painting and gardening. And when she was asked how she felt a few weeks later she said “I feel so happy and have completely changed from that dark place I’d let myself fall into”.

What she’d done was to re-ignite her passion for the things that made her really happy. It was immensely sad that her husband had died but there was no reason why she should let go of the things that made her happy in her own life. It was a case of letting go of the guilty feelings that her husband had died and to re-motivate herself to start living again and enjoy what had always made her happy when her husband was alive. In doing so, I bet she had so many happy memories of times they shared while she did some of those things again too.

So, it’s thinking back to those things and bringing them back into your life if you possibly can. This makes a big difference to your motivational level and ultimately how happy you feel.

Article by: Wendy Howard, www.spiritofvenus.co.uk

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When it comes down to being wealthy, healthy and happy there are four key questions you need to be able to ask yourself to determine the wealth, health and happiness you so desire.

The four questions are …

Question # 1 Who do you need to be, or who do you want to be?
This is about who are you as a person, your identity, your role, in an ideal world what role would you fulfil in your life that made you happiest? You may need to think about this for a while as it’s actually a very deep question. Sometimes your answer can be confused with the job you’re fulfilling, so really go deep on the person you really are.

Question # 2 What do you want to do?
This is about what work, or what activities and what behaviours make you feel most fulfilled? It may be that some of the things that make you feel fulfilled are not a huge part of your life right now and if this is the case, then this is an even more valuable exercise for you. When you’ve got some awareness around this then you are in a position to make some different choices.

Question # 3 What do you want to have?
What sort of environment do you prefer to be in? What sort of access to spiritual needs do you want? Once you understand a bit more about your spiritual needs, and that doesn’t necessarily mean religious as spiritual is more to do with how you feel inside and having a sense of belonging. So think through what you want to have as far as your spiritual wealth is concerned. It may be that having things such as trinkets, hi-fi systems, designer clothes are important to you.

And in terms of what do you need to have or what do you want to have, think about the rewards that you would like to give yourself if you don’t necessarily get them from other people. And look at how you celebrate that. How do you celebrate your wins? Because, when you celebrate your wins, you fire up your neurology, and it really helps you to then move onto the next thing.

Question # 4 What do you need to be with?
This is to do with the people you feel happiest being around? It could be family, friends or colleagues. It may be people you do activities with. And then go and be around them, if you possibly can. Being around the people who make you feel happy is really important but so often what happens is, we live a long way away, and our lives can diverge and we lose touch with the people who have made us happy in the past. To change this get on the phone and arrange to meet up and start to re-experience that happiness?

These four questions are really important to your happiness and well-being. Some of the choices that they produce can be challenging of course but the change that happens when you take action is incredibly exciting.

Article by: Wendy Howard, www.spiritofvenus.co.uk

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It’s amazing how so many people crave happiness particularly in our fast driven consumer based society where we have so much but we’re expected to be all things at once. To make a conscious effort to find happiness can seem just like another chore to fit into our already over-busy lives. But find time we must … for our very well-being.

Try this happiness exercise:

Write down the things that make you happy. This might be going to the local park, smelling fresh flowers, baking bread, chatting with friends absolutely anything that makes you feel happy. Now make a point of planning atleast 3 things that you will do over the next week that will make you feel happier. Phone a friend and book that day out. Arrange to go for a walk in the park. Set aside a day to concentrate on the things you love doing. Take a lunch break away from your office. These can be simple but effective things to do which make you feel much happier.

The second part of this exercise is to surround yourself with the things that make you happy. This might be music that makes you feel happy, the pictures you have in your home, the photographs you’ve taken, the images of the places and people that make you happy. What sort of food do you enjoy? Make a list of these things and bring them back into your life. Surround yourself with these and remember how you felt at that time. Actively seek out ways to make you fell like that again.

The final part of this exercise is to share with someone you care about and who cares about you, these happy moments, these wonderful experiences that you’ve had in your life in the past. Share them with somebody and get them to do the same exercise and go somewhere uplifting to share your experiences too. It might be over lunch in a nice environment, or on a cliff, on a beach, by a lake, up in the mountains, anywhere that makes you feel uplifted. And then share your uplifting stories with one another. I guarantee that the feeling you’ll get from this exercise will be extraordinary.

Article by: Wendy Howard, www.spiritofvenus.co.uk
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To increase your happiness and well being, start by writing a story about the happiest moments in your life. It doesn’t have to be a long story (unless you want it to be of course) it can be a short story. You can put yourself in the story or write it in the third person, it doesn’t really matter, so long as you capture those happiest moments. 

When you write your story include all the little detail, the places as you remember them, the weather, the people, anyone you’ve loved and cared about, pets, or anything that you were doing at that time which you thoroughly enjoyed. Include any memories of food or drink and any aromas that you recall. Are your memories of holidays, places, a day out, chilling with friends ore being with family on special occasions? And as you remember these times start to tap into the feelings and emotions you experienced at that time. Include this into your story.

What happens when you do this exercise is that it enables you to re-create the feelings attached to the times you felt blissfully happy and free. And sometimes when doing this exercise people have written some wonderful poems when they didn’t even realize they had any particular poetic ability before doing the exercise. That really is amazing.

And when you bring back these wonderful times your whole physiology will start to change and you will begin to smile. Notice how your body language changes and how your confidence level starts to soar. Because the emotional link is really an ‘anchor’ where you are able to re-access the experience and see, hear, feel, taste and smell everything again just as if you were there. In doing so, your physiology will change inline with your remembered experience.

There are two very important reasons for doing this. Firstly, its because we live in a virtual world doing much of our business and life activities online. Social networking isn’t quite the same as deep meaningful and enjoyable relationships first hand. And secondly, we need to take time to re-connect with ourselves. That is so important.

By reconnecting with ourselves, it is reminding ourselves of, not only the great things that have happened to us, the happy times, the motivational times, it’s also connecting with our gifts, our capabilities, the inner wealth and all the great things that we already have that we’ve lost touch with.  So, reconnecting with that and feeling really grateful for it, for them, and celebrating the fact that they exist.  So, whether that’s having a bar of chocolate, even though you might be on a diet, opening a bottle of champagne, going to see a movie.  It doesn’t really matter how you celebrate, that the wealth you already have, it’s so important to do it.

 And writing your own story is a way of reconnecting with you and experiencing life to the full once again.

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Well, what is stopping you?

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Wendy Howard

Stress, its a way of life for most of us these days. We all know it’s not always a bad thing as we need stress at times to get us through those high pressured times when we need to show high performance.

Things go wrong when we are continually under high pressure and we don’t have an outlet for the pressure build up. That’s when we become agitated, forgetful, don’t cope as well as we chould and even become ill. In the long term this type of stress is not good.

This is a technique I discovered a few years ago and it really works – so try it.

Step 1: Start by thinking about what it is that is causing you to feel stressed. Really zero in on it. The reason for doing this is that often we don’t know what is the root cause of our stress is. Really focus in on the issue or issues causing your stress.

Step 2: Close your eyes and breath in deeply through your nose. Breathe slowly and deeply.

Step 3: Now close both hands into tight fists either in front of you or down by your sides, whichever you feel most comfortable with. Focus on your fists and visualise that everything causing your stress is the closed palms of your hands. Really focus on all those stressful issues that you now have in the palms of your hands.

Step 4: Tighten your fists and squeeze harder and harder and tight as you can. Allow all your stress to flow into your tightly squeezed fists. Feel the stress. Tense your body and squeeze your fists tightly and feel the stress. Imagine that all your stress is real, alive, and you are experiencing it in the palms of your hands. It is in your tightly closed fists.

Step 5: Breathe out quickly through your mouth and say the word ‘cancel’. As you open your fists, picture all the stress disappearing out of your hands. Picture it floating away as a dark greay cloud that is going further and further away from you as it disappears into the distance.

Step 6: Allow your body to become fully relaxed and shift your mind to thoughts of being happy, or thoughts of something that would make you feel happy. Feel the stress released from your body. Smile and enjoy this.

Once you get the hand of using this technique, you will see that you have the power to automatically relax your body and mind and neutralise any stress you are feeling in your life on a daily basis.

Stress is something we can’t avoid in our busy lives these days and the best way is to learn how to manage stress so it doesn’t manage us.

Article: Wendy Howard, www.grow-training.com

I wasn’t sure about calling this article ‘6 rules’ and toyed with the idea of calling it ‘6 suggestions’ or ‘6 tips’ but that really wasn’t strong enough. These do have to be rules that are followed if you want to get the rewards from your business you REALLY deserve.

Rule No 1. Believe it! And I mean REALLY believe it on a subconscious level. That’s often hard to do as it means rooting out those limiting beliefs that self-sabotage your success. But where do they come from? Think about it. Where did you grow up? Who taught you those early life lessons? Who did you spend your time with? Who do you spend your current time with? What has everyone ever said to you? What do you hear other saying now? What is your own self-talk? Those are the clues!

Rule No 2. Invest in YOU! Do you really want to make a lot of money and be mega-successful at what you do? We all do to some extent don’t we? Let me put this another way then. How far are you prepared to go and what are you prepared to give up to make that a reality? What am I talking about here?  Let’s start by looking at you’re daily actions. Are you doing the same thing you did yesterday, last week and even last year? Are you attending the same networking meetings and talking to the same people also looking for success? What are your daily habits? What is your daily routine? The bottom line is that although everyone claims to want success and money, only a very few are prepared to make even minor sacrifices to bring it about. If you are someone who says ‘I don’t have the time to take that course or learn something new’, then cut out the television programmes and going out with friends for  while. That will be a good start. And look at your daily habits and connections and go about deleting those that are not serving you well.

Rule No 3. Personal Responsibility. To succeed at anything you have to take full responsibility for your actions. How often do you hear someone saying ‘well, it’s all down to the luck of the draw’, or ‘I wasn’t really in the right place at that time’, or, ‘it wasn’t really my fault, it just happened that way’. Don’t get me wrong the outcome is entirely down to you but if you take responsibility for your actions then you will automatically be putting yourself into the driving seat every time. And that’s where you need to be. No excuses!

Rule No 4. Play to your strengths! Don’t spend too much time trying to fix your weaknesses. Identify what your naturally good and talented at and learn more about that and how to promote it well. You will always feel happier and healthier working to your strengths. Wasting time trying to learn to do everything yourself if it’s not something you’re naturally good at is time lost. Find someone else to fill the gaps in any weak areas.

Rule No 5. Learn to listen and when to ignore. There are times when someone will give you good advice and other times when they won’t. Sometimes there’s a great business opportunity or joint venture you’d love to do. But a friend or partner doesn’t see the opportunity at all but can see all the reasons why not to. So you stop and don’t do anything about it. Choose who you listen to with care and view their track record before deciding for yourself whether to listen to them or not. Too many people live with regrets and ‘if onlys’ don’t let that be you.

Rule No 6. Keep going, keep going, keep going! And you will eventually succeed. You may need to diversify or go around obstacles and take the rough with the smooth. But eventually you will break through.

Have a great day!

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